Hi, welcome!
This is a brand new blog so bear with me as I start this thing up. I have started this space because I have not been able to find anything just like this anywhere out there! It stems out of my own life experience and the desire to connect with others who have been through what I have. The more girls that I talk to, the more I realize that we have so much in common and there needs to be a community where we can connect and support each other. If you are here you may have been searching for something like this just like I have over the years. About five years ago I wrote down my story in an attempt to get it all out of my mind and into one space. About two years ago I realized that I needed to start some kind of a support group for girls like me. I decided to write an outline for a curriculum but the first thing I did was a web search for what may already be out there pertaining to daughters affected by their father's sexual addiction. I found NOTHING! No blogs, no books, no forums... nothing where I could connect with others or find information on healing.
So here we are. Are you someone who has discovered pornography in your home? Has your dad had an affair or multiple affairs? Has he been caught in some sort of inappropriate sexual behavior? As a daughter this can be painful, confusing - maddening! You are NOT alone. I've found that this experience is a little different than any other. The world understands something like alcohol addiction. There are groups for children of alcoholics, like Alateen. Society does not offer support for children of sex addicts in the same way. When my dad's addiction came out, he had a support/recovery group. My mom had a support group for wives. I had nothing, outside of my amazing counselor. I was embarrassed to talk to my friends about what was happening to my family. I was devastated that my dad had hidden this dark secret from me my entire life. I was depressed and filled with fear about my own future relationships - how would I trust anyone if I couldn't trust my own dad? I hope that as I develop this space, I can offer you hope through my own story of healing, offer you a place to learn and find others who are walking a similar journey.
I am a believer in Jesus and my journey has been continuously intertwined with my faith, so I will share that as I go. I don't know how to talk about my healing without mentioning my faith. However, if you don't share the same faith, you are still welcome here! I believe connecting with others can be deeply healing even if, and maybe even especially when we connect with others from different backgrounds, beliefs, cultures etc. I'd love to meet you and find out who you are and what your story is!
Disclaimer: In order to make this a safe place I will moderate comments and will not post comments that are directly hurtful or harmful to others!
